Have you heard the phrase holding space? One person can hold space for another by just listening to what they have to say—without judging, without problem-solving, without comparing their experiences. It is a loving, compassionate act. Sometimes holding space can mean literally “holding space,” offering someone a place to be as they sort things out and think things through. And it’s possible to hold space even when you don’t share the same physical space—and you are a companion on someone’s personal journey across digital space, sending acknowledgement and support through text or quiet affirmation. Holding space is not required, it is a choice, and it may not come naturally to many of us.
As we remember and celebrate the story of Christmas, think of all those who held space. There’s Joseph who, as scripture tells us, held space for Mary, despite his confusion and surprise. You don’t have to believe in miracles to use your imagination and empathize with the challenge that would have been for him. Once they arrived in Bethlehem, it was the inn keeper who was moved to offer physical space for the very pregnant Mary as she prepared to give birth. And Mary, following the advice of angels and her understanding that she was to give birth to a very special baby, held space and nurtured that little one through nine months of growth and development. None of them were required to do what they did; they chose to act out of compassion and with love.
During this season, watch for those for whom you could be the one to hold space—the teen parent who has been met with judgment and rejection, the LGBTQ young adult whose family no longer welcomes them, the member of your extended family who’s just lived through a painful divorce, the friend who’s mourning the loss of something or someone dear to them. Welcome them. Be a listening ear. With love and compassion—hold space for them.
May it be so.
—Rev. Jean Sullivan, Outreach, Engagement & Hospitality Coordinator